The Top 10 Things Children Truly Want Their Parents to Do With Them
Posted on 06 August 2015
Sixteen years of teaching and giving the same assignment every Mother’s Day has led one teacher to an illuminating discovery.
School teacher Erin Kurt would ask her students every Mother’s Day to give her advice on being a mother. They were to think about things their mother or guardian did for or with them that made them feel happy or loved.
The classroom would go silent and often smiles would appear on their faces as they reflected on the happy experiences they were remembering. After reading their responses, Erin would add to her list all the ideas they mentioned.
Surprisingly, many of the responses were the same. Year after year, in every country she taught, and in every type of demographic, the students were saying the same things and had the same message: It’s the small things that their mothers did that meant the most and that they remembered.
After speaking endlessly about this topic with her students, it became clear that children today are involved in too many activities and are in turn becoming less in touch with themselves and their families. In addition, her students said they really wished for more time to “just play”. What they enjoyed most, and what made their hearts happiest was when their mothers did simple things for or with them.
Little Leaves co-founder, pediatrician Dr. Carley Gomez-Meade agrees, “There can be so many pressures to enroll kids in all kinds of activities. The intention comes from a good place; to provide activity and growth for our children. But children also need downtime to relax, use their imaginations, to just ‘be’.”
Here is a list of the top ten things students around the world said they remembered and loved most about their mothers.
- Come into my bedroom at night, tuck me in and sing me a song. Also tell me stories about when you were little.
- Give me hugs and kisses and sit and talk with me privately.
- Spend quality time just with me, not with my brothers and sisters around.
- Give me nutritious food so I can grow up healthy.
- At dinner talk about what we could do together on the weekend.
- At night talk to me about anything; love, school, family etc.
- Let me play outside a lot.
- Cuddle under a blanket and watch our favorite TV show together.
- Discipline me. It makes me feel like you care.
- Leave special messages in my desk or lunch bag.
Children are incredibly wise and tend to see the world through a simpler lens. Erin’s experience is an important reminder to ditch the stress, and be satisfied with the little things.